If you complain habitually and tend to resent people then your very nature will become sour over time. The effect is very marked. The person becomes like sour milk. It affects them to their core, and a sense of grievance overtakes them. For example, I …
Read MoreThe corrosive effect of grumbling and complaining
Ingratitude doesn’t stay silent for long. It inevitably turns into grumbling out loud, which is an even worse problem. It has a corrosive and poisonous effect on everybody. It harms the person complaining. Plus it undermines those who listen to it, and especially those who …
Read MoreIngratitude is the norm. Gratitude is the exception
We are selfish due to our sinful, flesh nature. Therefore the norm is for us to be ungrateful. Gratitude is exceptional. We have all experienced ingratitude from others and we don’t like it. Yet we also know we have all been guilty of it ourselves. …
Read MoreCultivate the attitude of thankfulness until it is a habit
4Rejoice in the Lord always; again I will say, rejoice! Philippians 4:4 (NASB) 18 give thanks in all circumstances, for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus. 1 Thessalonians 5:18 (NIV) And now we thank thee, our God, and praise thy glorious name. 1 …
Read MoreJesus is entirely realistic about what stage we are at. He is also patient with us as we gradually learn lessons and grow as disciples.
It is also possible that you have picked up the mistaken impression that because it can be difficult to be a disciple at times then it follows that Jesus must be a harsh taskmaster who is never satisfied with us. That is absolutely not the …
Read MoreHave I been painting an excessively negative picture of what it means to be a Christian, over-emphasising the struggles and under-emphasising the benefits?
I hope that what I have said in this chapter is balanced. I have attempted to emphasise the joys and benefits that come from being Jesus’ disciple, both in this life, and also in eternity. However I have also gone to great lengths to try …
Read MoreYou need to accept that God will subject you to ongoing “quality control tests”
If you want to be successful as a disciple and to grow as quickly and as far as possible, then you will need to come to terms with the fact that God carries out these ongoing quality control tests. Stop being surprised, perplexed or annoyed …
Read MoreGod will also test you from time to time to find out how you handle pressure and how you react in difficult situations
Another reason why God puts all of us through difficult experiences, whether we ask for them or not, is because He wants us to develop strength, stamina and hardiness. He wants us to be able to withstand a series of difficult experiences, over a sustained …
Read MoreBe willing to ask God to put you into the furnace of affliction and to keep you there as long as is necessary
Obviously, most of us have no desire to suffer or to be put under pressure. Indeed, it would be perverse for us to actually want to suffer, or to gain any pleasure from it. We should not want it in that sense. Nevertheless, it is valid to …
Read MoreThe furnace of affliction or ‘the school of hard knocks’ – how God uses severe adversity to melt away the dross from our lives.
Not all of the difficult or unpleasant circumstances that we experience are due to God’s chastening or punishment. Some of it has other causes and purposes. One of those is that God allows us to face adversity, struggle, opposition and difficulty as a way of changing us. …
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