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Forgiveness is primarily something we do rather than something we feel

Many people struggle and get confused because they don’t realise, or they keep forgetting, that forgiveness is primarily something we do, not something we feel.  To a very large extent, feelings follow actions.  Thus, merely by the physical act of speaking the words of forgiveness …

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February 20, 2020April 3, 2020 By Real Christianity development

Pray directly for the wrongdoer himself. In doing so, you are showing grace towards them and you will therefore receive God’s grace in return. Plus it will soften your own heart.

Another very helpful approach, which can help to get you to the place where you become capable of forgiving, or even to be ‘willing to be willing’ to do so, is just to begin to pray in general terms for the overall benefit of the …

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February 20, 2020April 3, 2020 By Real Christianity development

How to forgive people in practical terms – some advice on what to do and how to go about it

21Then Peter came and said to Him, “Lord, how often shall my brother sin against me and I forgive him? Up to seven times?”  22Jesus said to him, “I do not say to you, up to seven times, but up to seventy times seven. Matthew …

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February 20, 2020April 3, 2020 By Real Christianity development

Forgiveness is not done for the benefit of the wrongdoer. Therefore, it does not require their repentance before we can forgive them (though it does help a lot)

We must remember this crucial point, which may help some people who are struggling to forgive.  It is that we do not forgive people for their sake, so that they can benefit.  It is done, primarily, for our own benefit.  So, it is not something …

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February 20, 2020April 3, 2020 By Real Christianity development

Dealing practically with the fresh violation you feel when you see that the wrongdoer is brass-faced and feels no shame

The same principles apply as with the original wrongdoing.  So, along with the difficulties that come from the original wrong, you have the extra ordeal of facing the wrongdoer and seeing him, large as life.  Perhaps he is even attending the same church as you, …

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February 20, 2020April 3, 2020 By Real Christianity development

What if the wrongdoer is unrepentant and unconcerned?

For many of us, this is the hardest thing to bear – seeing the wrongdoer walking around, carefree and not even showing any concern, let alone repentance, for what He has done.  He may even taunt us about it and laugh about the harm he …

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February 20, 2020April 3, 2020 By Real Christianity development

Illegitimately judging other people brings God’s judgment upon ourselves

There is another good reason to forgive others.  It is that when we judge other people (in the wrong sense of that word) we bring God’s judgment upon ourselves.  Moreover, He has said that He will use the same standards, or criteria, to judge us …

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February 20, 2020April 3, 2020 By Real Christianity development

What is the difference between ‘anger’ and ‘rage’?

We have seen above how so many important biblical words and concepts are seriously misunderstood.  We shall now look at two more, i.e. ‘anger’ and ‘rage’.  The first, anger, is not necessarily sinful.  Indeed, it can be entirely justified and even righteous, depending on the …

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February 17, 2020April 3, 2020 By Real Christianity development

The harm that unforgiveness and bitterness can do

There are many harmful consequences that follow if we will not forgive others.  One major problem is the ongoing emotional effect that it has on us.  If the many wrongs done to us are not forgiven and handed over to Jesus to judge (and punish …

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February 17, 2020April 3, 2020 By Real Christianity development

Why does God make our forgiving others a pre-condition to Him forgiving us?

I believe that God has two main reasons for requiring us to forgive others, i.e. at least in the narrow, basic sense, before He will forgive us.  They are as follows: a) For us to judge and punish people ourselves is to usurp the role …

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February 17, 2020April 3, 2020 By Real Christianity development

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  • Introduction to “Growing in the character of a disciple”
  • What it means to be a real disciple
    • Deep commitment to Jesus is needed
    • Being a real Christian is not easy
    • Every disciple is in a spiritual war
    • Self-denial is essential
    • A disciple is a citizen of God’s Kingdom
    • We fight between our spirit and our flesh
    • We must reject the world’s values
    • Every disciple must lose his fear of people
    • Battle with the Devil and all his demons
    • Preparing for persecution and suffering
    • Endurance and perseverance
    • Some of the beneficial effects of hardship
    • Be content in all circumstances
    • Duty to learn Bible doctrine well
    • We must “enter by the narrow gate”
  • How God develops disciples
    • Be realistic about the cost
    • Discipleship brings conflict
    • Be salt and light in this world
    • Jesus refines us like silver
    • God disciplines His children
    • God deals with the wicked
    • Ananias and Sapphira
    • Delivering a man to Satan
    • Warnings in the letter to the Hebrews
    • What is sin leading to death?
    • God uses adversity
    • Furnace of affliction
    • God will test you with pressure
    • Ongoing quality control tests
    • Joys and benefits too
    • Jesus is patient and realistic
  • Thankfulness – make it a habit
    • Ingratitude is the norm
    • Corrosive effect of grumbling
    • Complaining makes you sour
    • Complaining shows sinful nature is alive
    • God is never to blame for anything
    • Thankfulness opens our eyes
    • Give thanks out loud
    • Thankfulness draws us to God
    • Thankfulness is a decision
    • Thank in all circumstances
    • Give thanks for past help
  • Faithfulness
    • Must want to be faithful
    • God wants commitment
    • Can’t find faithful people
    • Growing means many tests
    • Pass tests to progress
    • Be faithful to God
    • Faithful to God’s Word
    • Daniel – a faithful man
    • King Saul was not faithful
    • King David was very faithful
  • God’s assessment of kings of Judah
    • King Amaziah
    • Kings Uzziah and Jotham
    • King Ahaz
    • King Hezekiah
    • Kings Manasseh and Amon
    • King Josiah
  • Responsibilities to be faithful
    • Jesus see everything we do
    • Our word must be our bond
    • Faithful in relationships
    • Faithfulness to God Himself
    • Faithfulness to our husband or wife
    • Faithfulness to children and parents
    • Faithful to friends and acquaintances
    • Faithfulness to our employer
    • Responsibilities we’re given
    • Faithfulness to colleagues, customers etc
    • Staff, junior colleagues etc
    • Faithfulness to those who helped us
    • Faithfulness to our enemies
  • More ways to become faithful
    • Get rid of selfish ambition
    • Stop craving for approval
    • Always be faithful with money
    • Never manipulate people
    • Follow your conscience
    • Guidance on others’ disputes
    • Getting involved in conflict
    • Respond to God’s promptings
    • Danger of ignoring God
    • Courage to be faithful
    • Courage in preaching and speaking
    • Giving in to fear is sin
  • Further advice on faithfulness
    • Fear of the LORD helps you to stay faithful
    • Starting well, failing later
    • King Asa failed later
    • Are we as faithful as King Asa?
    • King Jehu became unfaithful
    • When your mentor has gone
    • Success can harm faithfulness
    • Don’t become complacent
    • Don’t limit faithfulness
  • The love of the truth
    • Jesus is ‘the truth’
    • Be an honest witness
    • Problems caused by deception
    • Lying hardens conscience
    • Lack of shame when lying
    • What is ‘the love of the truth’?
    • Hate falsehood
    • Be without guile like Nathanael
    • Nicodemus was guileless
    • Jesus answered the sincere
    • Samaritan woman was guileless
    • Guile and shrewdness
    • Be honest when reading the Bible
    • Welcome correction
    • Most people believe what they want to
    • Every lie will one day be exposed
    • Ask God for correction now
  • Develop the quality of truthfulness
    • Make truthfulness a habit
    • Don’t compromise over truth
    • Some dislike truthful people
    • Good name is better than success
    • Devil and demons always lie
    • Lying is habit-forming
    • Whole truth and nothing but
    • Omission is sometimes a lie
    • We don’t always have to answer
    • Exaggeration is a form of lie
    • Honesty in business or at work
    • Honesty in preaching and teaching the Bible
    • Dishonest preaching – an example
    • Lies to gain advantage
    • Winning without lying
    • Truthfulness guides us
    • Being honest with yourself
    • Don’t compromise on truth
  • Being truthful – some complications
    • Jehu’s lie
    • Rahab’s lie
    • Betsy Ten Boom told the truth
    • Using deception in war
    • Problems of being too honest
    • More honest than wise.
    • Error of excessive scruples
    • Never twist Bible meaning
    • How to develop the love of the truth
  • Forgiving other people
    • Narrowest definition – ‘recuse yourself’
    • Forgiveness is a decision of the will
    • Only Jesus is authorised to judge
    • Forgiveness isn’t optional
    • How many times must we forgive?
    • Forbearance is our duty
    • See others as God sees them
    • Never take vengeance
    • Take comfort – Jesus judges
    • What forgiveness consists of
  • Confusion about forgiveness
    • Forgiving others rarely preached
    • What forgiveness is not
    • Ideas similar to forgiveness
    • Example showing types of forgiveness
    • Demons want us confused
    • We must forgive others first
    • Unforgiveness and bitterness cause harm
    • Difference between anger and rage
    • Don’t illegitimately judge
    • When a wrongdoer is not sorry
    • Seeing wrongdoers get away with it
    • Forgiveness mainly benefits us, not them
  • How to forgive – practical advice
    • Pray for the wrongdoer
    • Forgiveness is something we do, not feel
    • Maybe you are at fault too
    • God will judge and punish
    • Handing things over to God to judge
    • Disputes with fellow Christians
    • Matthew 18 procedure
    • Problems doing Matthew 18
    • Forgiving my abusive church leaders
    • Taking a Christian to civil court
    • Reporting a Christian to the police
    • Dealing with wrongdoers at work
    • Pray for those who wrong you
    • Forgiving doesn’t mean trusting
    • Forgiving a parent
    • Forgiveness within marriage
    • Forgiveness can be a key to faith
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